“What happened to me was physical, mental, and coercive – control that crept into finances, isolation, and a thousand small permissions I stopped realising I needed. Being gay made it harder still: fewer places felt safe to say it out loud, and fewer people expected a man, let alone a gay man, to be living it. It took me years to understand that what I was living through had a name, and that I wasn’t alone in it. As an EIDA Ambassador, I want employers to know domestic abuse doesn’t look one way – it doesn’t check who you are before it happens to you. The workplace can be one of the few steady, safe places left when everything else feels controlled. If one conversation here gives someone permission to notice what’s happening to them, it’s worth it.”
